parents

[newcomer]

Wow am i getting sick of this, dad is always hounding me for doing nothing. i think he is still stuck in the old times. i work more than he thinks its just that he is never around i am getting sick of his crap!!

 

[MCC]

None of my business but it sounds like he's sick of your crap. Just remember don't bite the hand that feeds you.

 

[Sassy2899]

I know what your going through.  All you have to do is figure out when he gets home, listen for the back door to open, then hop up really fast off of the couch and pretend you are going out to the barn to do something.  ;D
I got this thing figured out.

 

[aandtcattle]

iF YOUR DAD HAS TO BE AROUND TO KNOW YOU ARE WORKING, YOU AIN'T Working hard enough.  He should be able to see what you have done.  Fix fence, clean the barn do something that he can see the progress in.  Most of all, don't have a bad attitude with him, that will get you nowhere fast.

 

[justme]

Maybe its time to grow up a little and take initiative.  Thank your lucky stars you have a dad that cares enough to notice

 

[AJH]

Be happy you have a dad I lost mine one month ago......he pushed me hard to for getting things done........feels like your life after this happened to me just gets pulled from under your feet.....respect him, and just do what he ask of you

 

[rtmcc]

Hey, my kids say that to some times.  But heres the deal from us dads that are working full time so we can support all these little projects and hobbies.  "If we are going to have livestock and do sports and 4-H and live were we do there is some "crap" that needs to get done every day no matter what.  So if you don't do it I have to do it when I get home no matter what time it is."  If you were busy and have something to show for it or were in a after school activity then fine.  I'll get it done because I support all that you do.  If I come home and everybody is watching tv and I still have an hour or two of chores to do I may go off."

Sound familiar?  Believe it or not us dads do this to help make you better people.  Having all these opportunities and projects comes with hard work.  That is a life skill that you will always need.  It takes all of us if we are going to do all this.

Keep up the good work and prove to your dad what you can accomplish!

Ron
<cowboy>

 

[flacowman]

I got that attitude sometimes too until a friend went off on me for not appreciating the opportunities I had and that he would gladly trade me, He had lost his dad a year or 2 earlier and hius mom could not keep the farm running and sold out.  I try to never be mad at anyone after I leave their presence because you never know if you'll get the chance to apologise...

 

[CAB]

Take a real hard honest look around at your peers and decide which ones are going to be able to take care of themselves in life. I'll make a bet with you if you care to. It will be the ones that have been taught how to work. It's the best thing that we as parents can do for our children. Your Dad is doing you the best that he possibly can. In these times, I'm sure that stress & pressure play a part in our moods more than they should and we don't always deliver the lessons as well as we'd like to, but be glad that you have parents that care enough about you to give you the opportunities that you do have. I'm sure that your Dad wishes that he had more patience sometimes. In the mean time try to hang in there and learn from your own mistakes and doings.

BTW, great thread!!

 

[OLD WORLD SHORTIE]

of course no on here has ever been pist off at their dad, especially on a working farm/ranch. All i know i sometimes some beetching has to be done to get some work done. In my younger days i was not so keen on doing the work but i still did it. Now i cant get enough of it, after graduating college and finding me a nice  cushy desk job, all i can think about is getting iin the tractor an working the land or making the fences better. I love my dad, but sometimes two bulls will fight. (argue)

I sound like my dad, "these kids dont know hard work" , back in my day 1995 whowee those were some tough times. Felt like little house on the prairie trying to start a family farm. Just blood, sweat and tears.

 

[american honey]

Deep breath, I don't always get along with my parents, they don't seem to understand that high school is VERY stressful espically when you haft to listen to uneducated people tell you how terrible you are for killing livestock! But I will admit, I do slack every once in awhile and usually when they yell at me I just tell myself that it might help me out in the future. We haft to agree to disagree sometimes, my mom always tells me to pick my battles and my dad just nods his head. Everyone says that in the long run your parents are right, it's hard to grasp that so I just keep asking God for common sense and patience! No worries, it will get better!!

 

[Earthmover]

Sounds like you need an attitude adjustment! Going on a board like this and dissing your father. What you need is a boot in the Azz. Do you know where the road is? If so, hit it.

 

[kidsandkows]

This is hilarious. So this is what I get to look forward to huh! I have a 7 yr old girl and a 3yr old boy and I think I already hear the beginnings of the rebellion. But seriously find somthing you both like and take a little time to do it together and you will both come out with different perspectives.

Really good thread. You are not alone. We all have these problems!

 

[knabe]

move out.

 

[vc]

I see from your status you are 17, Sports, girl and screwing around with your buds is allot funner than working, right? Any work your dad gives you gets in the way of that, right? If your like most kids.

I have a feeling what you think working your Bu77 off and what your dad knows working your bu77 off, are not the same.
Keep your mouth shut and try doing more, or better yet take the time to look at what you, do how long it takes to do it, and then subtract the time you probably goofed off doing it. Could you have done it quicker if you hit it head on and just did it? How much more work would have been done in that time? If your honest with yourself, you probably wont like your own answer. Now if you do work your bu77 off and you know it you need to feel good about yourself and figure your dad is just trying to get you ready for the real world.

When I was 12 and my brother was 11 we had what they called year round school, go to school for 9 weeks off for 3 for 4 quarters. When we were off we had a list of things to do each day. It took us all day to get them done, so we did not get to do much else.  Now had we just got up in the morning hit it hard it might have taken 2 maybe 3 hours. It took us about 6 quarters to finally figure this out, but we could be goofing off by 10 in the morning if we really got to it.

Now As I got older my dad got tougher and the work got harder but it still only took me 2 to3 hours if I just did it. My dad climbed my bu77, but most the time he did, I could see where I may have pushed his buttons a bit.

 

[BRdoc]

NEWSFLASH  Saskman! All GOOD dads are like that. Don't try trading yours in for a better one. You just might end up on the street doing some bad stuff someday. That is, unless your "Good" dad has already instilled some ethics and morals in you. All I can say is...PRAY to the good lord above that your dad doesn't get on here!!!!!!

 

[savaged]

1.  Print this thread and comments.

2.  Put it in an envelope.

3.  Label it:  "Do not open for twenty years", and put your name on it.

4.  Graduate, go to college, get married, have kids.

5.  Twenty years later, open the envelope.

6.  There, now you get it.

There's no other way son.

 

[Diamond]

oh god, I wish I had your problems...wait till real life hits ya, it hurts.

 

[mainegirl]

Oh  my how you will learn. You sound like you could be my brother's twin! lol My dad likes to put things in this perspective for my brother...he's not paying for the feed, the land, the medicine, breeding supplies, show equipment, etc. He doesn't have to buy his show steers (we buy our own females though), he gets the pay check when he sells those steers and all of the premiums from the shows he competes in and he gets to keep every cent of the money from the calves that come out of his cows every year. If you have it like this, well you might want to think about thanking your parents instead of complaining because you have it pretty good in my opinion. And remember that you can't do this forever and there are no redos. I try to tell my brother to appreciate it now because when its over you're gonna miss it. Trust me...I'm speaking from experience. It goes by fast so quit whining and just do it. Its only gonna help you in the future because life is only gonna get harder. Enjoy the ride while you can!

 

[aj]

Every situation is different. Heads will butt occasionally no matter what.