There are always going to be people that always seem to have great cattle, the barn talk will always be aimed at them, if your winning their talking about you.
The one family that came in and spent big money for calves (he was not shy about talking about it) had gotten into it for the right reasons, the older kids in the family had chosen some bad paths, they got the younger kids in it to help keep them grounded, the problem was the person they were getting advice from, and the arrogance of the father. The kids were good kids and learned how to show and take care of their animals after a few years. They even had a few heifers back east that the older boy would fly out to show, he did quite well with them.
The problem started the first year, the attitude and the brashness of the father on day one was hard to get past. The boys were on the shy side and very polite, the mother was also nice. I know from the outside the father was the same way in the business world.
The blast year they showed the father blew up at champion drive, his son won the show but his other sons steer did not make the drive, yelled at the judge shoved his way past him grabbed his son and the steer and marched from the ring. The judge went to follow him to see what the problem was, I stopped him and just said it is not worth your time, he was not going to get anywhere with him. I felt terrible for the boy who had won, my wife went and gave him a hug, told him great job, I shook his hand and told him what good job he had done, others followed suite.
The parents can ruin it for the kids, the ones who are winning and the ones who are not, I think we all need to step back and keep the kids in the front were they belong, be there to help and guide when needed, not stir the pot.